Let’s talk kink – a word that covers a vast array of unconventional sexual acts. Vanilla sex is great, but sometimes it’s just… too vanilla. If you get what we mean. We love to challenge the norm here, so let’s explore pleasure through unrestricted and audacious creativity.
What exactly is “kink”?
Well, it’s anything that’s outside the mainstream conception of ‘typical vanilla sex’. “Kink” is all about exploring the different ways we can be intimate with others, and it covers a wide range of activities and extremes. Let’s explore the most common categories that fall under the kink umbrella:
- BDSM: Indulge in bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism, because this kink covers it all. Whether it’s spanking, bondage, or dominant-submissive role play, BDSM has got you covered in all the right ways. Move aside, Christian Grey.
- Fetish: You know what really gets our engines revving? Sexualizing non-sexual objects, and body parts. Think feet and shoes, body hair, leather, rubber, or underwear. We’re talking about fetishes, baby, and they’re all about object fixation and sexualization.
- Role Play & Fantasy: Want to add some spice to your sex life? How about acting out a sexy scenario with your partner? Whether it’s talking about your wildest fantasies or getting into character – complete with costumes, and props – there’s no limit to this category. From doctor and nurse to boss and employee, let your imagination run wild!
- Group Sex: Two’s company, but three’s a party. Or maybe more… We’re talking about group sex, baby. Threesomes, sex parties, orgies, and more! This kink is popular among adults, with an estimated 10% of women and 18% of men having engaged in group sex.
- Voyeurism & Exhibitionism: Who doesn’t love a good show. Whether it’s watching someone undress or engage in sexual acts without their knowledge (voyeurism), or getting it on in public places where strangers can catch you in the act (exhibitionism), these kinks are more common than you might think. In fact, over a third (35%) of adults in a study were found to have an interest in voyeurism. Hoo Raa!
How to Explore Kink Safely with a Partner
If you’re new to kink, it might feel a little intimidating to try something so unconventional. But don’t worry, we’ve got you covered with some tips on how to safely, and confidently explore kink with a partner.
- Educate yourself on ALL THINGS KINK
Learning more about kink can help you feel more prepared and less intimidated. There are plenty of sex experts out there who can help guide you on your journey. You might also want to suggest reading and learning about kink together with your partner. We recommend checking out author Tristan Taormino’s ‘Ultimate Guide to Kink’. You’ll thank us later.
- KINK SPEAK: Keeping Things Safe, Sane, and Consensual
Once you’ve done some research, it’s time to have an open discussion with your partner about exploring kink together. Creating an open, honest, and non-judgmental environment is important when discussing kink. You may be surprised at what your partner is interested in, and vice versa.
Kink-speak emphasizes the importance of keeping things Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) to ensure a positive and healthy kink experience for all involved. This principle reminds us to prioritize consent, safety, and well-being.
- Limits for SAFE KINK PLAY
Establish your limits before engaging in kink. This is a crucial step to engaging in kink with a partner. Make sure that both of you know what you are and are not okay with, and make your boundaries as clear as possible.
Clear communication is key. Choose a “safe word” as a way to quickly communicate “No” to each other. This word serves as a signal to the other partner that you want to end the current kink play you are engaging in.
- Educate yourself on ALL THINGS KINK
So, what are you waiting for? Grab your partner and start exploring the wonderful world of kink. Remember to stay safe, communicate clearly, and above all, have fun!